To some extent people have become conditioned to accept a certain spectrum of possibilities. As you would expect, this spectrum is not exhaustive, so there are many other options that go unseen. Sometimes it cannot be helped, sometimes it cannot be changed. So to solve this you don't look to them, but to yourself.
What do I mean?
There's two parts to this equation. The Internal and External components. The former is entirely in your control; there's no one else you can blame if you don't work it out, and you can change every bit of it. The latter is a bit tricky, and may seem uncontrollable. But it can be regulated. This is where the element of You comes into the picture.
Instead of submitting to the will or effects of external factors, you can choose HOW MUCH gets through to you, and how the rest will affect you. About the first point: some things you do warrant the intrusion of a foreign idea. The solution is simple: avoid these situations. If, from experiences you've learnt that talking to a certain someone gets you nowhere or leaves you feeling dissatisfied, then don't talk to that someone about that certain something.
Sometimes there are mental barriers in the way, that may prevent you from taking that course of action, or cause you to overlook it completely. For example, you may have the preconceived notion that you must share everything with your mother. Or that you have to tell your family something because you already told it to your friend, and since family is one up, everything that lower parties receive, the Family must too.
But why?
After all they are people too. They have emotions and different ways of thinking, just like everybody else. Someone's role in your life does not come with predefined eligibilities or liabilities. Ultimately YOU have the choice of who you want to talk to. So take all the time you need to find people who can understand you on different levels, and can relate to your different needs.
That way you remove yourself from a position of guilt-induced-disappointment, and allow yourself to grow. Your growth is important, because it is beneficial for yourself and everyone you come into contact with. Let me try to sum it all up below:
- Find out what you want to be
- Take time to look at it in detail, refine it
- Work yourself into the person and state poised to reach your goal
- Be selective and smart about your interactions with people
- Grow! (by the Whey, protein supplements help)
There are many intermediate steps, and you might even have to rearrange the order to suit yourself. But that's the beauty of it, there are no rules. You get to decide what happens, but only if you believe in it enough. Personally I would say you should pray a lot too because ultimately its in His hands, but for now I'm experimenting with leaving religion out of the discussion.
On a side note, if you happen to talk to Fadhilah, be careful. I discovered recently that she has an unexplained fear of boats, though she chooses to disguise it as a blatant stubbornness to say it. Please, do her a favour and stay off the topic of marine transportation the next time you converse with her.
About the title of today's post. Fauzan had a blue glove with him today, and we all know what to do with gloves: inflate 'em. He called me from the other end of the house just to show it to me, and for some reason I found it very funny. I lolled, as in 'HAHAHAH!' though I think I sounded more like 'AHYG HYG HYG HYG!'. Araknow, sound it out, it might come close to my laughter. Its nice being happy, isn't it? ISN'T IT?! YES. I wasn't shouting, I was just being... passionate.
I need a slap, I think I cannot... digest
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